THE ME GENERATION, NARCISSISM, AND ANOTHER HALF TRUTH

I recently read commentary addressing what the writer sees as a growing phenomenon, narcissism in the “me generation”, a generation characterized by narcissism and a sense of entitlement, where the interests and well-being of the individual come before those of the group.  Impatience and a desire for instant gratification were also assigned to this generation, and reference was made to the book, Generation Me, by Jean Twinge, who describes young people as being more assertive, confident, entitled, and more miserable than ever before.  When things go wrong in their life they tend to project the blame on others, which in turn results in frustration, anger, and eventual rudeness.  The end result is increasing stress levels. 

Not a very complimentary description of this generation (folks born between 1981 and 1999, according to Twinge).  My skepticism evolved to anger and frustration when the writer disparagingly described parents raising their children to feel special, to believe they could be anything they wanted to be, and to believe in themselves.  Here was another example of someone taking the easy way out by seeing only extremes and failing to examine all of the intricacies of an issue. 

I don’t know of a greater gift that a parent can give their child than the gift of self-esteem and the belief that they can aspire to realize whatever dreams they may have.  A child who grows up believing he or she is special, believing in themselves, is someone who will be emotionally prepared to address the trials and tribulations of life.  It is only after an individual understands and accepts whom they are that they can then effectively serve others and the community.

But there is more to this than instilling these character strengths in the child.  It is equally important for children to know their role in the community, to learn from their parents that they are part of a world larger than themselves.  It is the absence of this lesson, and not the instillation of self-esteem and self worth that leads to narcissism.  A critical point that many popular social commentators seem to overlook. 

Revised from a 2099 post